Celebrating International Men’s Day: Stories of Strength, Vulnerability and Hope
International Men’s Day is more than just a date on the calendar — it’s an opportunity to celebrate the positive value men bring to the world, their families and their workplaces. It’s also a time to shine a light on issues that affect men’s health and wellbeing and to encourage conversations that matter.
This year, we wanted to share real stories from some of our colleagues. These are stories of resilience, courage and the power of speaking up. Each one reminds us that behind every smile, every joke and every hard day’s work, there’s a human being with a journey worth honoring.
Gavin’s Story: Choosing Happiness
“I’ve always been the bubbly one at work — the guy cracking jokes and loving what I do. Being openly gay in such a supportive environment has made a huge difference. But outside of work, things were tough. I stayed in a long-term relationship for ten years that just stopped feeling like love. It affected my mental health and I didn’t feel like myself anymore.
Eventually, I made the decision to walk away. It was scary, but it was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Since then, I’ve felt lighter, happier and more like me again. International Men’s Day is about celebrating the different journeys we’re on. Mine’s been bumpy, but I’m proud of where I’ve landed — and if you’re going through something similar, just know you’re not alone.”
Davy’s Story: It’s Good to Talk
“When Chloe asked me to write something for International Men’s Day, I wasn’t sure what to say. So, I turned to Google! But then I thought, maybe sharing my own experience could help someone else.
Life throws up challenges and 24 years ago I had my first severe panic attack. Since then, anxiety has been a daily battle. I also lost my uncle to suicide and my dad to dementia. These experiences taught me something important: men often don’t open up, but we need to. Mental health is real and it doesn’t send you an email — it arrives when you least expect it.
Please don’t bury your head in the sand or feel ashamed. It’s okay not to feel okay. There is help out there and with the right support, we can all learn to cope a little better.”
Kevin’s Story: Finding Purpose in Helping Others
“I’ve worked in construction and maintenance for over 30 years, but joining Lakeview Care Home was the best decision I’ve made. For me, helping people is a real tonic. A simple task like fixing a picture or changing a light bulb can lift someone’s spirits — and that brings me joy.
Working in care is a privilege. We’re all part of a well-oiled machine, giving the best care to those entrusted to us. If you want to make a difference, work in care. Those priceless moments of appreciation will stay with you forever.”
Jonny’s Story: From Darkness to Light
“I’m proud to be Head Chef at Cregagh Nursing Home, but my journey here wasn’t easy. In my 20s, I loved to party, but behind the scenes I battled anxiety and depression. Alcohol became my escape and happiness was just a mask.
In 2019, everything changed. I became a Christian, sought help through my GP and completed a six-week program. This year, I celebrated six years sober. Today, I live with joy and purpose — serving residents, running a toddler group at church and playing drums in the church band. Men, there is hope. Seek help. Life is worth it.”
Why These Stories Matter
International Men’s Day reminds us that strength isn’t just about muscles or bravado — it’s about vulnerability, honesty and the courage to seek help when we need it. Whether it’s walking away from a toxic relationship, battling anxiety, finding purpose in helping others or overcoming addiction, these stories show that every man’s journey is unique and valuable.
So today, we celebrate men everywhere — for their resilience, their kindness and their willingness to grow. And let’s keep the conversation going, because as Davy says, “It’s good to talk.”
Mental Health Resources
If you or someone you know is struggling, here are some places to turn for help:
UK & Northern Ireland
Lifeline NI: 0808 808 8000 (24/7 crisis helpline)
Samaritans: 116 123 (free, 24/7)
CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight daily)
Mind: 0300 123 3393 (mental health advice and support)
Inspire Wellbeing NI: 0808 189 0036 (support and signposting)
ANDYSMANCLUB: Free peer support groups for men across the UK — andysmanclub.co.uk
Text Support
Shout: Text 85258 (24/7 crisis text line)
International
HeadsUpGuys: headsupguys.org — global resource for men’s mental health
Befrienders Worldwide: https://www.befrienders.org — find emotional support in your country